The almost 30 realisation

Can you remember the realisation that your parents are sometimes, occasionally wrong.

You’ve grown up hanging on their every word – then one day. Out of nowhere you’re just like. You’re wrong. That’s not true. And your head implodes.

At first you’re mad. Then you’re frustrated. Then disappointed. Then liberated. You realise you have your own thoughts. Your own ability to interpret the world around you and form an independent judgement.

Well, maybe I’m a late bloomer or something, but it happened again. Only this time with all authority. Call it the Trump effect. Or the quarter-life crises. Call it reality. I don’t really care.

The simple fact is. When you’re about 23 you learn the art of compassion. You realise the people around you that are dick heads, tend to be dick heads for a reason. But for many it stops there.

It’s human nature to be defensive when we feel exposed or insecure, our natural reaction is to defend ourselves.

These insecurities are often born out of some childhood lesson that still hurts deep down somewhere.

The problem is. Only a small percentage of humans seem to acknowledge this. And least of all those in power.

Why’s that I wonder? Perhaps the most successful amongst us have either a) learnt to manipulate as a form of defence, inadvertently leading them to success. Or have b) decided they need to prove something in a bid to disprove their weakness.

It is very rare to see someone in a position of power that is totally sorted.

It seems to me that contemporary society is governed by a bunch of underdeveloped, regressive, insecure teenagers. And it’s been played out on the world stage.

Is this why we see Trump resembling a disengaged yet hugely arrogant teenager? A prime minister that is so outwardly robotic that she can’t connect with the public on even the most basic human level.

No wonder people are disengaged. We’re being ruled by people that haven’t matured. Haven’t look beyond themselves.

I’m almost 30 and my biggest achievement to date is learning to be good with me. I’ve learnt that until I was able to be happy with that I wasn’t able to have a positive impact on anything around me.

They say charity starts at home. And in my mind leadership should too. Learn to govern yourself and have a positive impact on those around you before you attempt to fix the world.

If everyone did that, the ripple effect would be so great that we wouldn’t need bizarre excuse for leaders governing our poor excuse for a distopia.


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