You don’t look gay, you must be the girly one then? Do you prefer butch women because you’re small…? The list goes on.
Despite this, my coming out experience was a positive one. But, people are still going to say funny stuff from time to time. Put it this way, if I asked a midwife what it was like to be a midwife, I’d ask all the stupid questions anyone that isn’t a midwife asks…
It’s the same with being gay. It’s OK, but just to clear matters up here are the answers:
1. ‘When did you decide to be gay?’ – well first things first. It’s not a decision and I’m pretty sure I was born gay… so yeah forever.
2. ‘How did you know you were gay?’ – how did you know you were straight? I like boobs and fanny that’s how.
3. ‘How do you know when you’ve had sex?’ – sexual intimacy is sex.
4. ‘How do you have sex?’ – ermmm how do you have sex? We kiss and shit like you, that’s how.
5. ‘How will you have kids?’ – I don’t know I don’t have a partner right now.
6. ‘Would you still want to get married if it was to a girl?’ – yes.
7. ‘Are you the man or the woman?’ – we’re both females.
8. ‘Do you worry about life being harder now?’ – trust me spending a life with a man would be hard. Now I can live the life I’ve always craved.
9. ‘Would you sleep with a couple?’ – no I’m not somebody’s experiment and would you really ask a straight person that question?
10. ‘Do you think you could really love another woman?’ – yes, I could love a woman.
Oh and before you ask it’s not a phase, or a life choice it’s who I am. I was born gay, just like I was born with red hair, my Dad’s nose and green eyes.
Hopefully that clears things up. Insert further questions below 😊